Thanks Jim, I really think you nail this one on the head.
Toots, I like your last text. Mentioning the D is just pushing for what you don't want. This one is very much what is important for you.
When you start this process, how long time it would and can take to be final? Is this something done in days, months? This all play a role too, it is also a thin line for you H to think that he is ending another M. I would think that this does not feel good at all for him.
Besides, this crazy idea of building a family is just this... crazy. Of course it is possible, but it is very hard. He is probably dreaming that his next M will be a nice little house, with a garden in the front yard and white fence. Really?
I wonder how he would feel if he face it like it is. Starting a family, having crying babies day and night, not much time to do all the fun stuff in life what most of his married friends are doing since for our age the kids are heading out of the door soon enough. The financial side of all this.
It's sad but I think he will learn the hard way and will be in a ghost quest for awhile.
And about you Toots, just would like to remind you to take good care after yourself, eat a balanced diet, drink lots of fluids, cry when you need to, so you don't bottle everything inside. Be gentle and patient with yourself.
