Thanks Jim and Cadet. Boy, I feel I'm taking a while to get there....thanks for bearing with me. Jim, I think you're right - don't invite him to press the D button, just focus on the one thing I need to get sorted, which is finances. I guess I just worried about 'not hearing' or ignoring him when he says he thinks we should D. I'd also like to look at Jim's previous suggestion about moving things along - by saying, I'll do X unless I hear from you otherwise.....so, that looks something like this -

H, thanks for doing that...

Unless I hear from you otherwise, I'll contact my solicitor this week, and start working towards a formal financial agreement.

Have a good weekend, Toots.


T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus