Pink's Journey # 2

[Sotto]

Hi Pink, it sounds fine to me - although in your responses to H, you could add a little more warmth than just fine - think 'distant warmth' - eg: "that's fine H - I'll be out that pm" - just softening a little maybe.

Great that you looked fab - but don't worry about what he may think. Look fab because that's how you want to look when you go out - don't worry about his reaction.

I think he has too much of his journey left to take to turn back right now. And because of that, you need to keep your focus on you and your own life. Keep walking forward yourself, not looking over your shoulder. If he wants to catch up at some point he will - but there's a lot of work for him to do if so, and I doubt he's ready for that just now.

I read your thoughts about the doctor, and I had a similar situation. H working away a lot, and I worked with a guy who seemed to think I was great. He was M. You can see how easy it would be to cross a line. I never did do that, because I loved H and knew I could never be at peace, lying my head on the pillow next to him and knowing I lied to him. That was the big thing for me. I don't think there's anything to reproach yourself for.

I'm reading this helpful e-book atm. It's called 'Detach and Survive: A book of self-care for the wives of MLC men.' I'm finding it very helpful and it mirrors DB principles too.

Have a good weekend, lovely Pink xx