Toot Toot - here I come!

[Sotto]

Thanks so much Pink. I don't know why, but I just feel so raw about it all since I heard from him yesterday - even though it has been on the cards for a while. Reality is biting & I feel we're facing the end now. I tried to discuss it with my Dad last night - probably didn't pick the best moment as he was heading out. He has always liked H and been supportive of my efforts to save our M. He just said - surely you don't see any future together now? I said I would still like to try and save our M if possible & he just looked unhappy about that. I think even he thinks I should move on now.

I don't think this is about money with H. Yes, for sure he has spent marital funds on long haul flights to see OW1 & there's probably some other stuff....but I don't sense he has gone crazy - although there could be a nasty surprise pending there maybe? This is why the house is important leverage for me. I think it is more that he wants to move on and start a new family - become a Dad again and feel happy again. I think that is his driver.

We've actually not seen each other since August now. I don't think meeting under these circumstances is going to help. I actually think we just need to get the legal, financial and house stuff sorted now - although given we've chosen a collaborative route, there will be some contact, not just L's sending letters on our behalf. But given travel distance, my L suggested we conf. call rather than meet, which I'd prefer TBH. I dread the next time we meet being round a table with L's to sort things out.

He has suggested we walk round the house together to sort out who takes what, so I guess that may be the next time we meet. We're texting ATM, so I think I need to shorten my response. I asked him which agent we're using, and if/when he comes back, I thought of responding...

H, thanks for doing that...

In terms of settling all our finances before the house can be sold - I'm happy to file for formal separation. But if you want us to divorce, you'll need to start that process.

Just let me know either way & we can move things forward. Have a good weekend, Toots.