I think I belong in Piecing...

[Painter]

So this is interesting... After last week's MC, H and I had a talk the next morning that was very open, honest and calm. He said things I wasn't thrilled to hear, but it was a good conversation (H especially felt it was). The morning after that, he reassured me about some concerns I had from that convo. The rest of the week was very calm and friendly.

This week's session, we told the MC about how good the week had been, and we agreed it stemmed from that convo where H opened up. We laughed quite a bit in the session.

MC talked about love languages and how this week, we are supposed to work on learning each other's language and purposefully use it. She also talked about the four horsemen - the predictors of marriage failure: criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling.

This morning, H became angry and withdrawn shortly after arriving. He said the part about love languages and my difficulty with one of them made him 'think'. He didn't want to talk about it.

He was initially upset about an imaginary bill (it's not going to happen) and said he felt 'alone in life'. I told him in the afternoon that I didn't want him to feel that way and what would help him feel less so. He didn't know. I asked him to let me know if I could do something to make him feel less alone in life. He didn't know.

It's surprising to me that having such a successful week following an open conversation, and becoming so aware in counseling that it was the direct precursor to our connection, he would fall back to the silence and withdrawing the very next day...