Sorry, tried to add this to my last post but time expired.
Bond is very direct and his 2x4's are a wake up call. At first, I had a hard time deciphering all the signs and different advice. The VET's know their stuff! I'm thankful for Bond's responses, and have re-read them all in my thread. Was just too dim to actually realize what he was telling me. First of all SLOW WAY down... (I have to tell myself this constantly). At first I thought patience meant a few weeks... how wrong I was. Live one day at a time, but start thinking in terms of years to rekindle your M, if you can get back to YOU first. Can't remember the thread, but Zues had a great analogy about a card game. Really put things into perspective.
Man, it is so much easier to be objective about other people's sitch. I don't have any good advice, but there are definitely posts that have helped me understand immensely. One is from a moderator talking about what going Dark is really about. JonJames? I printed it out and read it everyday to remind myself. Wish I had a link to it.
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M: 8 years, together 9 M: 41 W: 32 D 4, S 6 ILYBINILWY 2/10/15 2/14/15-2/22/15 Left home 4/5/15 Suspect A, Initiated Sandi's advice from WW thread 4/19/15 W asked for D
