Counter his negative images/justifications for periodically wanting out of the marriage?
(Example of a 180 that counters his negative, would be If he complained you were "always late"
then you'd become MRS PUNCTUAL and arrive on time OR early for everything).
You want him to realize his "data" about you is not real, or is outdated. You are not the woman he sometimes vilifies.
You want him to second guess his lack of commitment to the marriage.
But you can only do that by becoming the better choice.
What are your short term goals?
And of course, as I posted above, how about those GAL?
By putting the focus on yourself and committing to it, I promise you that your life will improve at a much faster rate than it can by staring at him & "Observing".
Spend less time "REACTING" and all of your time proactively living your life well.
Your son is watching you more than you realize. You have to show him, by modeling it, that he is in charge of his own happiness.
Dig deep b/c the real journey in life is an inward one. Decide the traits YOU want to work on and the flaws you don't want to keep, and become the best Pbetra you can. That way, regardless of your h's journey, you will be just fine.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
