Jim, thanks for your your posts....I missed them somehow...

I like your suggested wording too - hmm...I'll sleep on things. I feel better for posting anyway - felt in a bit of a flat spin earlier - You guys are great!

I agree about losing the fear. I need to find my inner power here and look after myself.

RD, thanks to you too. You are right about that. H sees much of what is 'ours' as 'his' and I start to doubt myself and buy in to his perspective sometimes. But that's on him, you're quite right.

Oh well, a new chapter for us - house sale...it will be good to get things sorted anyway.

Thanks guys xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus