I do not believe we are really discussing anything related to rude bits, nooky or pimples.
Warning guys really controversial views to come!
I think we are discussing addiction which is about power and distraction. Porn addiction, online games, trillomania hoarding, eating medical waste, excessive cosmetic surgery, gambling and EA/PA, these are all behavioural addictions. The route is the same, distraction, obsession and lack of mindfulness and connection.
The object is truly irrelevant. These behavioural addictions are an attempt to fill the soul, a place which needs to be full of the higher power. The answer is a twelve step programme. These are no different from substance addictions, drugs, caffeine, food, alcohol and sugar. The later are easier to change attitude towards but more immediately physiologically destructive.
In the end all of this is about self management, I do not like control as that sounds central heating like. I think when we truly open our hearts to the higher power within us this all truly falls away. It matters only that we want to be the best we can be, irrespective of our indulgences (oh how I desire Liam, chocolate and Rioja, all together in the altogether).
It is less about a match with those who will satisfy us and more about how we can realistically tolerate others who are different.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
