I think you probably already know where I'm going to weigh in on this, but....
I know you don't want to D but you need to look out for your best interests. You said before that you'd like to get the finances sorted and its important you do.
My solicitor (and I was there anyway) was really firm that I shouldn't make an agreement over the house unless it was part of a full agreement. If I did I'd lose all my leverage.
There are different options for how you can do this but ultimately you're right in that under our system it has to be part of the D to be fully settled.
I do have a signed agreement but not the consent order. She could argue it but my Solicitor said she would need a really strong case to change it. Either way I'd say get some legal advice.
If it does lead to D are you really any worse of?
Besides you can always remarry
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
