Toot Toot - here I come!

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Hi Zew, thanks for that - I may not be explaining myself very well. From other posters like Pink, I can see that formalising S in some US states is more of a recognised legal process with deadlines and so on - and a legally binding agreement.

In the UK, formalising a S is done on a purely voluntary basis and the resulting agreements don't hold water legally as such. That said, in the event of D, the court does tend to rely on what was agreed as part of formal S, unless there is a big change in circumstances.

Twin, thanks for your suggested wording - I like that. I have been thinking about my bottom line here. I won't agree to the house sale unless part of a full financial settlement and I don't intend filing for D. What you have put covers those. It may not be possible to agree to formally S and H may decide to file for D, but I will have done my best!

Appreciate the feedback - thank you!