I understand the fear of divorce but like Zew said, you need to let that go.

A non sugar coated point of view........
You are only his wife on paper. In his eyes you are no longer his wife so does a piece of paper define your life?


Dear H,
The sale of the house is fine with me but only if it is part of a full financial settlement. I would prefer formal separation but if you prefer divorce that is fine with me. Just know that I will only have my lawyer file for separation, divorce paperwork is your responsibility if you choose that route.


Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction