I get the "SuperDad" thing ... I think I was a pretty good Father, but after this all hit the fan, I was reeling and trying to figure things out I was faced with the reality I could very well go from Full Time Dad ... to part time dad, the reaction is to squeeze every ounce you can out of the now limited time to be with the kids because this sitch is not their faults but they are the casualties. This can be viewed by the WAW in the "Why now/Its to late" light ... we know better, its because all the sudden we are faced with the posibility of losing our kids even if its 50% of the time ... ^^^^^ CRUSHED me.
But .... going through the journey I did have to pull back, I was being used as a babysitter ... not a father/husband. She would try to reschedule S to be with me when she and OM had something they wanted to do .... well just as I would not fund the A, I also was not going to enable it ... if she never felt the real life ramifications of D ... if I was there to take my son whenever she wanted to 'be single' how was that fair to me, the M, S ... even her .... it was not setting the ground work to what would happen if the D went final.
I also was not growing if I was to close to it all .. that alone and away time is critical to looking at yourself and fixing what needs fixing ... being to availible to be there for my son gave my W the impression that I was right where she left me, not changing, not improving, not living .... hence not attractive.
Just food for thought when it comes to kids, do not mistake me nothing more important in my life than my S, but he is so important I had to fix me first.
