Being 'available' for W? Is she treating you with respect like a W should? Why do you want to be a knight in shining armour to her, when she's behaving badly?
Your W won't respect you if you act like a lap dog.
When your told you weren't there for her and didn't appreciate her I would think that logic would dictate that that would be a change that needs to be focused on.
She lost respect for me because I was unavailable. Continuing to be so is just more of the same.
It's not an on call type thing. It's me being proactive. For example: if I'm at my house with the kids and W isn't there: I'll do things around the house that need to be done. I don't ask her if she needs help not do I tell her I did it. I just do it.
