Thanks Zew. Thinking about it some more. I don't want to file for D, but I do want us to agree a financial settlement before the house is sold. I have already suggested formal separation with a full financial settlement, and H responded he thinks we should D as part of that.

I could just ask my L to write and start the ball rolling on formal S, and if he then chooses to file for D he could...

Am I just being too D averse? I don't want to file when D isnt what I want. Problem in the UK is financial settlements can only be 'forced' as part of D.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

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