I think I belong in Piecing...

[Painter]

My boundaries are that if I find out he is in contact with OW, it's over. Also, the anger issue has to be resolved somehow, in MC, or IC (which I don't think he'll ever do). It is much, much less than it was before. It was especially bad during the EA.

He has committed to working on making the marriage work, with no time limitation.

I'm not sure what the transparency plan is, the counselor said to him that at some point she hopes he will be comfortable sharing everything with me. He did let me go through his phones and e-mails - but I know he's holding out on one e-mail address. I think he also has a phone on another plan. Right now, I am holding off on pushing the issue because I am trying to solidify a common ground.

I choose to trust him now, but I am prepared for that he may not be honest. My strong instinct is that he is honest about the current situation, but that he has not admitted all details about what happened during the A - like having another phone. I will probably talk to the counselor about bringing it up, how and when.