Defacto, since we were of the same mind in Ripken's thread I thought I would catch up on your sitch - even though I probably should not as I am at work. I think you are one of the most poised LBSs I have seen. From the beginning your interactions with WW have been smooth and controlled. I wish I had that rapport with my WW. I can barely manage civil and cordial, and I am probably more like passive aggressive.
I think you are doing a great job of working on yourself and regardless of the outcome, you will be a better you. Heck! I wanna be you . I am very impressed with the way you care for D4. You seem like a great dad.
You have a great relationship with GB - who always has pretty rock solid advice and who has invested a lot of ink in your sitch. Some of his posts are pure gold! I do, however, want to echo one of the previous posters on your thread, who said that you are crossing into the friend zone. It may help after D, but it may not be conducive to DB. When your WW tells you she loves you, it seems like she is telling it to you as a friend. Not as a W to a H. I think that if she truly loved you as a H, she would not be doing what she is doing. Love is a choice and she is choosing to not be with you. How is that compatible with the love a W has for her H. I think her telling you that she loves you is disrespectful and condescending to you as her H. She is equating you to a friend. She is essentially saying ILY without saying BINILWY. How is it any different that the way she said it on BD? How has she changed? Where is her remorse for her actions? Who is she thinking about when she says ILY? You do not need to validate her for saying it. Even GB said it before: her infidelity is a form of abuse.
. I am very impressed with the way you care for D4. You seem like a great dad.
