Maintaining your PMA, make this a priority. not just with spouse when there may be interactions...but make this a priority in your entire life, new firends, work, family...all of it. It will help with all the other things!
Can't remember...Have you looked into any of the books on codependancy? There is a lot of us in the descriptions of what a codependant is and it could help with your five points above.
Sending out positive thoughts!!!
Oh, and i have an into to meditation tomorow morning. there are 2 free sessions a week, so i am going to give it a try tomrow. Thank you for your advice.