I think I belong in Piecing...

[Painter]

H had an affair last year - a LD EA with an old flame that turned into a PA when I went away to school. He lied elaborately for months about A, and hired a divorce lawyer and tried to prevent me from coming home. He had no legal standing so never told me about the L, just kept pressing me to not come back. He wanted to separate and 'maybe we can remarry later'. I returned as planned before Christmas, thinking H had gone crazy and something was seriously wrong. He was happy to see me, but a little off. I found proof of L and A in mid-January.

We decided to reconcile in mid-February. I had 3 conditions: Cancel contract with lawyer, go to MC, and write cease and desist letter to OW. He has yet to do the last thing.
He says he has not been in contact with OW since before Christmas.

Current status: We are seeing a DB counselor weekly (4-5 sessions so far). H says he is all in working to revive the marriage, but not feeling it yet. I guess I'm not really feeling it, either, but I want to put everything I have in to finding back to what we once had.

One motivating factor for him was probably that I won't just go away and he found out I would get the house and a sizeable alimony. At least this is giving us time...

We're working with counselor on communication, primarily, and getting needs met. I'm working by myself on 180s and validating.

This sounds like Piecing to me?