That's a difficult one, just starting the process, as you know. At the minute, I don't want W - she's treating me so badly. What I want is W back as she was. Will she come back? I don't know. How long do you wait? What are we expecting to see; what are the signs? Just too many unknowns for us LBH's to ponder, so, that's where the rules come in, I suppose.
We can't change them, we can't control them. We have to do what's right for us.
I'm having a bit of a down afternoon. I know that W holds the 'kid card' right now, and I seem to be losing that battle. I've worked out my income and expenses and I'll really struggle to see them if W carries out her plan. I can't tell W as, in her current state, she won't care.
Sandi - thoughts for us Py and me?
hey Huddy & NDY,
I'm no vet but I think it is great to see you NOT wanting her back Huddy. It sounds to me like progress. We go to and fro on this as time passes and we "grow"/detach. Be careful (I suspect you know anyway) about wanting her back the way she *was*. I know what you mean - but you are likely to be back in 6 months if that were the case. You want the improved version I suspect.
There is a section in DR about "the signs". But these are probably more appropriate to at least you being under the same roof. In my case these signs are not visible.
I have been scared about the kids issue this whole time. After talking to legal aid though I am more confident that although I would be clawing my way back in court, a judge would have to agree that it I was unfit to be allowed my rights. These including that my consent is required to move the kids to another school, major decisions etc. HOWEVER, this is still no certainty. The judge can make any order that h/she sees as being in the interests of the kids and workable. h/she doesn't really care about stepping on anyones toes.
Down afternoons. Plenty of them my friend. Enjoy your evening. Little things can change the day in a second.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
