If you ask her to do something, leave it open so that she can decide whether she wants to do it or not. Keep your expectations at the low level.
Don't ask her to do too many things w/you right now. It could come off looking like pursuit.
It's one step forward, two steps back. Don't rush the process.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
