That's awesome - thanks so much Defacto and RAI. I'll check out the No More Mr. Nice Guy book and see how it helps, there may be elements in there for me.
It's not easy, but lately I keep telling myself to use the time for me and I can't focus on her. She never returned from work, went to see OM and didn't come back til 1:30AM. For the most part, I wasn't bothered. Spent the evening with my sons and got some sleep. Was a good night. I need more of these and moving out will help.
As far as improving on me - I'll keep referring back to these and any advice/strategies/what works for you guys and the group, I'm all ears:
-Rediscover and rebuild my self-esteem and self-confidence
-Learn to better control my anxiety and stop pursuing behaviors
-Let go of fears, they should not control my actions
-Learn to enjoy uncertainty and having patience, not everything has to have plans or expectations
-Realize how I am the only person responsible for my happiness and can only find it within me. I need to appreciate what I have, instead of focusing on the things or people I don't.
Rip, Good work last night! This is improvement. I know personally how tough those nights are.
I think those bullet points are great. Keep digging deep!
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
