Hi Bob, I am not quite through reading all 4 threads but wanted to say thank you for commenting on my situation.
GAL seems to be working! Brilliant! You give the LBS hope that there is something for US, the pain will subside and detachment will and slowly happen and we one day, we will wake up and be in a better place.
Thank you for your words of hope and encouragement.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Good to see that you are GAL and moving forward. I have found that meetup groups are very therapeutic in this process, and have met many people there with similar backgrounds. I have rediscovered my love for hiking with them, and it has helped my loneliness and isolation as well.
One foot in front of the other, and one day at a time.
Thank you for being so positive with everybody.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
Nice one Bob. I'll keep checking in to see how you're doing.
Hey there Huddy,
Thank you for chekcing in on me. I had a long day at work but I feel so positive today.
I'm convinced it's because of the terrific support network on this forum and GAL'ing.
I've been meaning to check on your situation. Bad Bob! LOL
I will later tonight or tomorrow.
Take care.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Well, I have a lot of postings out there. To catch you up super-fast, my W has MS and left while I was away for a weekend visiting my S at college. We had an argument, a few nights before I left. When I came home, she was gone (we only have 1 car). I eventually found out she filed for D the next day. Her main issue with me was that I had become "smothering." She is living 3 1/2 hrs away with her Mom/Stepdad.
I believe in the last thread, mahhhty asked me what behaviors of mine led to this and what I was doing to change them.
Of course, like almost all WAS' she has re-written our history.
Really trying harder than ever to GAL seems to have helped my attitude, confidence and helps me detach.
I am feeling as good as I possibly could today, considering the circumstances.
You're welcome, Smothy, I think there is always hope.
I'll check in with you by tomorrow for sure!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
How are you? The first thread I looked at a while ago was Vanilla's and then Defacto's. What a coincidence! I posted in Defacto's thread that you had given excellent advice, yours was the most recent, I believe. This was before I checked mine...and up pops Kramer again! You are a huge help to everybody, too.
Thank you for your kind post. I am finding that the meetup groups are helping me with feeling isolated (as you mentioned), giving me a more positive attitude, more confidence and keeps me from trying to contact W. Detach Bob! LOL
I want to check on you but may not be able to until tomorrow.
You're awesome. Have a great evening!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
No worries. Glad you're feeling positive - that's the man!
Our W's might be rewriting history, but one day it'll dawn on them how miserable they are making themselves, then they'll realise what they have lost.
Have a good day Bob!
Do you know I think this too, I know it is not healthy way to be. I want him to realise this now before the D becomes final. I had a friend wanting to come and see me today (8hr train journey!!) I said sure but I can't give him anything right now and he is to have no expectations. I know there are other fish in the sea, but I wants the one I caught 25 years ago!
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
Bob, How are you doing today? Any big plans for the weekend?
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
You are a huge help to everybody, too.