The "talk" scheduled for Saturday..

[Kramer]

Anyway, it was just about the fact that it hurts like hell that he doesn't contact me now when he knows I'm having a hard time.
Feels like he never loved me at all and couldn't care less. Like it doesn't matter what I'll do, he's lost to me forever.

So get good and mad about it. Stop acting pathetic. My goodness, have you forgotten that you don't catch a man by running after him, tackling, wrapping yourself around his legs......while he's dragging you across the floor, trying to make his escape. (Emotionally, that's what you have been doing.)

This man never M you, right? You said he pursued you for six months? Then the chase ended, and now you've lost his attention and affection. Maybe for him, it's all about the chase. If it is, then he is probably chasing another woman, or considering it. He likes the thrill of a new romance. The chase is challenging, and it is a male characteristic to pursue. Take that away, and he gets bored and unhappy. Doesn't have those initial feelings for her.

For some people, you just can't smother them in a relationship. Calling a million times a day is a bit extreme, wouldn't you say? Leaves little time for anything else.

I know you are hurting, and I'm truly sorry for your pain. I think you need to be prepared for what don't want to hear from him in "the talk". I believe he has tried to let you go gently, and you just aren't getting the message. He has moved on. I think this is what his talk will be about.

This is not your H. Why would you run after a man who isn't interested? Take it as a warning, and be thankful you aren't M to him. He would do this to you again.

Keep your dignity, stay poised, and have the spunk to hold your head high and leave him standing in the whirlwind you make as you turn and leave. You deserve better.

Agree with everything sandi2 has said. Do not let other people control you and demean you. Respect yourself and be strong. You deserve better.

Sandi, if you read this, would you please check out my sitch, including new developments, and give me your perspective as a former WW? I would be most appreciative.