Long time no post. No change in my sitch. Actually heading towards D I think I finally came to the conclusion that there's nothing I can do. Had a talk with W. Pretty serious, where she tried to explain her feelings. It's surprising how sincere and legit she actually sounds. Of course much of it is script and just plain standard breakup procedure but I do sense a lot of authenticity in it. Still hard to accept and it's just a matter of fact that we both have different opinions. But none of this matters anymore. I'm moving on, I keep doing what I have been doing. I'm a good person. I deserve someone who makes me feel better, not worse.
Everything from here on will only go in one direction. Surprisingly W agreed on some kind of a "reconciliation/communication" counseling. Not to save the M, but to save us from fighting in the process of D. I might still shoot for a legal separation, which will have a huge financial benefit for both of us, but I'll make the cut as clean as possible. I won't be able to build some sort of a friendship and move on at the same time.
I will also go on a vacation in August. Somewhere South America. Can't wait. I'll check in here more often in the process and hopefully I can help out someone else here and there, because this forum was golden. Thanks everyone!!!!
Me 32 (German) Wife 28 T 3yrs M 2yrs Moved to US for W No kids BD 6/2014 In house separation Confirmed EA 1/2015 (ongoing since BD) OM not ready Real D talk started 1/27/15