Good luck joe. This can be something you take control of. Your wife is t communicating a decision with you. This could either be a wake up call or a way to protect you kids and have them stay in the same place vs go to another state.
It's one of those situations where all the scenarios suck and you have to do what's best for you and your family.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23