Hey Luke. Now I'm confused about the curiousity...LOL!
You still have your walls up..I get it..you have been burned several times. You want to see consistent actions over time that show she is being honest, I think.
Be careful there in that you dont want to keep a scorecard, yea? Because then you run the risk of keeping a scorecard and a how much is enough kind of thing.
For now I would like to see you be open to the fact that she is trying to be truthful.
I wanted to talk to you about the kiss. I know it hurt your feelings a great deal.
The spouse is the last person they reconnect with and physical intimacy comes further down the road from that.
It doesnt have to do with him and has everything to do with her.