Well talking to my IC today, I know that my S is safe and he's not left alone while there...so I think it's something I have to just learn to be in the grey with, unless or until I get proof or admittance of something going on.
The DBing continues. Today he came home earlier than he has been and wanted to watch a show together. Small steps.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out