I am sorry that you are in this position now. Not fun at all.
Originally Posted By: Joe46
He said that if she moves and I do something later it is a risk because than if we file anything the judges in both states have to hash it out. If I file here than the judge here will decide what is best for the kids. He said that from his experience the judge will not think it is in the best interest for the kids to be taken out of school during the school year for weeks at a time like she was hoping. He said they also will look at how the kids have grown up here and their school is here. So more than likely would set up visitation for the summer and school breaks.
This is a real solid legal advice and if I were you, I'd go ahead and file legal separation to protect the kids. That will preempt W from just upping and taking the kids out of state.
Originally Posted By: Joe
I am hurting for my D12. She has always been daddy's girl. My one fear is what she may think when I am the one that starts the filing process.
Truthfully, kids really don't care who does the actual filing. As a child of divorce, my only concern was that I had a roof over my head, access to my mother & siblings, and hang out with my friends from school.
To this day, I still do not care who did the actual filing for a D. It had/has no direct bearing on me as a person. Just paperwork.
I went through two divorces as my parents divorced when I was two and my father's marriage to my stepmother broke down when I was 11 years old. That really impacted me the most. Still didn't care one whit who did the actual filing. Just paperwork.
