Caliguy- did you and your wife work it out? What helped her get over he fear of your anger?
Its still a TBD ... things have turned around a bit for the better, I would not say we are piecing but its leaning that direction.
Like all things ... consistency is key, the changes you make at first will lead to suspicion ... "Why now, Its to late, you had your chance" but over time when the changes actually take root, they notice. I changed quite a bit actually .. I can tell you that whole "Gift of time" line .. it really is a gift regardless if the M is 'saved' ..... I say that because I realized I don't want to 'save' that old M, I want a better one.
