Wow, Pink, I have to say you surprised me with this one. From my viewpoint, RD has listened, supported, been the shoulder to cry on again and again and again. He's only recently stepped back a bit. I don't know how he did it that long, it's way past what I could have tolerated. I'm not saying your viewpoint isn't valid, Pink. I just didn't see it the same way.
RD, maybe moving back to her mom and dad is a good solution for her now. They can be the support she needs, it gets her away from OM, and gives you a break. I love your generous spirit in offering to fly her back to see the kids, you are a true jewel.