7 weeks in feels like a lifetime.

[Lynn80]

I am also a recovering Mrs Fix-it! Maybe we are the same people. .

I will focus my effort in letting go of control. You are right that he knows what I want. Good reminder. He has to make the right choices. I have tried to guide those choices for 5 years.

[Cadet]

I am also a recovering Mrs Fix-it!

Most people that post here are Fixers.

You are in good company.

[CaliGuy]

I am also a recovering Mrs Fix-it!

Most people that post here are Fixers.

You are in good company.

Crap ... I just realized I am trying to fix people here too

[Cadet]

I am also a recovering Mrs Fix-it!

Most people that post here are Fixers.

You are in good company.

Crap ... I just realized I am trying to fix people here too

YUP another member of the club

[Lynn80]

We are just so good at fixing. Hard to walk away from a natural talent.

[Lynn80]

Caliguy- did you and your wife work it out? What helped her get over he fear of your anger?

[CaliGuy]

Caliguy- did you and your wife work it out? What helped her get over he fear of your anger?

Its still a TBD ... things have turned around a bit for the better, I would not say we are piecing but its leaning that direction.

Like all things ... consistency is key, the changes you make at first will lead to suspicion ... "Why now, Its to late, you had your chance" but over time when the changes actually take root, they notice. I changed quite a bit actually .. I can tell you that whole "Gift of time" line .. it really is a gift regardless if the M is 'saved' ..... I say that because I realized I don't want to 'save' that old M, I want a better one.

[Lynn80]

I am partnering DB with 5 love languages and am seeing positive improvements. His words have not changed, but his actions are shifting. We have spent all day sat and sun together with seperate Saturday night plans. He keeps coming to see what I am doing when I go read in the bedroom, and he is talking about what is going on in his life.

Always looking for reassurance in his words but I know not to ask or expect anything right now.

So thankful for these two resources. Trying not to get too excited and keep my distance to pull him in even more. Praying he decides to work on the marriage. Not sure what holds him back as it has been so pleasant this week.

[kippz]

Hi Lynn,

My husband has been like that. Flip flopping. And yes, what they say is true, they are scared too. My husband kind of slipped. One day we were talking and then he said "I'm just scared..." and then I caught him and asked "Of what?". He just ignored the question and changed the subject.

[kippz]

It takes a while. Mine is almost 3 months going....

Prayers for you and your spouse!