Why do you insist in ignoring her so much? She is begging your attention and caring, why you can't try at least once to let your guard down and see her as the friend, wife and mother of your children at least for one only time?
She needs antidepressants, this is an excellent start point in the right direction. You could seat down with her, even in the pretense you care for her as the mother of your children, wants to see her happy in her life, etc.
Then you could talk to her about the medications, talk very serious about the implications of her using antidepressants and driving, taking the right dosage, being around the kids, using weed and maybe some alcohol.
You can even tell her at some point that if she messes up with this then you will get a court order and she can't see the kids no more.
Maybe you can offer to go to the doctor with her, just to make sure she is really looking for help and just be there for her.
I know, I know... it's RD doing the heavy lift, but I read a story here, about a guy that stood beside his wife while she was with someone else and eventually she realized that all she needed and wanted was right beside her.
You being angry at her is not resolving anything. Take this opportunity that she is willing to take the antidepressants and start there. In 7 to 10 days the meds kicks in full effect and then she may get better.
She needs a friend better then the one she is having now, why not to be that friend for her? Maybe she is not coming back after you help her, but 1st you will know you did what you could and 2nd you are helping the mom of your kids.
Congrats for your S16. I am so lucky that my S15 is also taking French and sometimes I need to help him with the vocab. Ahg.
THERE IS JOY IN THE WELL OF GOD'S HEART FOR YOU TODAY - AND THE BEST BUCKET TO RETRIEVE IT WITH IS THE ONE THAT SAYS, "GIVE".
