Went to IC yesterday, and she told me to tell W that i still want to work on our marriage instead of detaching. I had informed her about this website and she stated that it might be a good idea to let W know that i still want to be married to her.
If your IC is not familiar with the principles MWD teaches, then you are likely to get mixed messages. Based on what was said about detaching, she (or you) do not understand the DB concept of it.
Are you discussing your M with this IC, or your anger?
Do you think your W doesn't know you had rather stay M to her?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
