In other words, the dirtier she treats you.....the more you want to throw yourself at her feet? See anything wrong with this picture? I assure you that she sees it.
I actually don't think she's been particularly dirty. She hasn't been a pain to be around or anything. She does her thing and I do mine. There have been no snide remarks or anything else. Yeah, there's been the temperature checking, but it's never in a mean way. She's just doing what she thinks will get my attention. Not like I enjoy it, but I can only change me.
And I can say I haven't thrown myself anywhere near her feet. Knock on wood. I really am trying to be strong around her.
Maybe you missed my point. What I find shocking in most of the LBH'S is how their WW can cheat, lie, deceive, be cold as ice, disrespectful, etc., .........and it just seems to make him want her even more. Like you said about wanting to call her and go home to hug her, etc.
That's why it is important to have those personal boundaries identified. Your self respect has to be priority right now. The less dignity she sees in you whenever she can get away with treating you badly, the less attractive you are in her sight.
In one of my threads, I talked a little about the LBH who lets his WW return to the MR (or continue on in it) too easily. In other words, she tells him she will stay in the M if he'll put this all behind them and move on. He wants her back so much until he gladly accepts her terms, but that is a mistake. I'm not saying you are doing this, I'm just talking in general. The WW has to work through issues and if she doesn't, I think it will come back to bite the M in the a$$. Don't take her back without her being truly sorrowful for the hurt she's caused and for her behavior. If she means it from the heart, I think the H will be able to tell. I believe it is a work and a process for her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
