7 weeks in feels like a lifetime.

[Lynn80]

Looking for help!

My husband and I had a great convo around what the real issue is. It started because he noticed me changing. I said I was trying new things and not waiting. I booked a trip and concert without him. He seemed happy and asked how long I had to use the vacation.

I shared I have been reading about affairs to understand and deal. I shared my ownership in our marital problems and the realizations I have had over the last two months. He was authentic in his appreciation and asked how long I have been working on the issues and what brought about my willingness to listen. He apologized for not being able to speak up. He then asked me to make dinner with him! We continued to chat through dinner. His phone was blowing up with texts from friends and OW. He said "they want me to go to the bar. I was like I'm...no" that has been a big issue. He even left his phone in the other room through dinner. After dinner he agreed to a family walk with our son. This has NEVER happened from past requests.
While on the walk, he starts answering his phone texts and by time we got home, left for the game. He had told me about the game earlier in the week. I told
Him to have fun and he sent a text to update the game wasn't at the park he thought it was at.

I had hoped he would come home early, but he didn't. When he got home midnight he did come in the room (smelling of a lot of alcohol) and laughing about our son.

I see so many positives. I know it won't happen overnight. I am also not trying to want it all at once. I am concerned the OW is not going on attack to keep him. Just need a little support/celebration and direction.

He continues to bring up that I should make my own friends and he thinks I am angry. I will continue to GAL and be happy.