Apparently I should have gotten over her affair quickly.
It is the attitude of a WW, b/c she isn't remorseful for her A.
She feels she tried so many times in the past to work on the MR, and now she doesn't have what it takes to continue. You, on the other hand, are ready & willing to go to work on it. The timing is off, and that is the story with all these cases.
I strongly suggest you stop having relationship discussions at this time, b/c it will not fix anything. Most times, it leads to more arguments and ends badly.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
