Zephyr, you might be right. It could be a jealousy factor. I guess the reason I ask is I read of people setting that boundary of no visiting the OW and it made me start thinking I'm doing something wrong. But as I have no proof or admittance I feel I'm controlling rather than boundary setting.

Does any of that make sense?

M 46 / H 43
T 24/M 18
S 4
11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out