Ok so if H brings it up first though, should I say I don't wanna talk about it? Sorry I'm totally confused right now. I'm actually in the sales line, I lead a team of about 15 ppl. This is really frustrating for me cos now I have NO control over anything that's going on in my M right now. I've always been goal oriented and patience has never been my strength so this is really really hard for me. Ugh.
I guess you may be finding some of the things you need to 180. YES - you have no CONTROL over him. Only YOU.
If you have always been in CONTROL maybe the thing to change is to let him do it.
I still like saying nothing.
Here is something you could say if needed:
Husband I understand you want to be divorced. That must be very hard for you and it is a brave step, I will not stand in your way however I will not help you get divorced.
