I think there was a misunderstanding. I was replying to those suggesting that was a good plan, stating I DIDN’T want to do that. I thought I was pretty clear. I agree with you that healthy, adult relationships are the best way to gain confidence. It just seems a lot of guys talk about building confidence by getting with a lot of women and I was talking about how that wouldn't work for me. I don't want to be told I'm good in bed by anyone except for my next (and hopefully last) woman.
One of "those" Z is referring to might be me. Although I never even thought of multiple women my only point was "ok so you aren't actively looking but I don't know that you should necessarily actively NOT look" if that makes any sense.
I dont know exactly how you feel, I know I don't feel "ready", I was just pointing out that this will probably always be the case. At some point we will have to put into practice what we think we have "learnt" even if it is only to realise that we haven't learnt anything at all. But we might also find that we have learned, and we have been repeating the final year of high school over and over again. How do we know when we are ready to move on to college where indeed we WILL learn a whole lot more.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
