Pyrite, how wonderful to hear about your inner calm. I think this is the most important part of letting go, open to reconciliation but not waiting. Knowing we are going to be ok for now and the future.
It would be unrealistic for us to be out of our 'mess' completely.
For you to see that the old M and your old interaction with your W is not where you want to be is very Cathartic and stabilising.
I am beginning to drop my rose tinted glasses and see the negative dynamics H and I had. However, I am not I the place yet where I am truly detached.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18 EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13 Move to work abroad Sept 14 re establish contact with OW while away D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15
