The end

[gogofo]

So how do I get passed the obsession I have with wanting to destroy Ow's reputation?

I never felt like destroying the OM's reputation, but I did at times feel like finding him and destroying him physically.

A couple things stopped me. I have kids and I would do nothing that would jeopardize my chance at being their father. I also know that the OM did not sexually assault my W, she was a willing participant. When trying to piece my M back together I came to the fact that if I wanted to smash his face, I should feel the same about my W. I did not want to hit my W, so I had to deal with the fact that since she was just as guilty I shouldn't want to hit the OM.

Finally, I think they will get what the deserve. I am not a spiritual person, but I do not want to give my XW and the OM any control over my life. They didn't respect or care about me when they were having their EA/PA so why should I give their actions control of my emotions.

It took me a long time to come to these feelings, but with time and acting like the person you want to be you can get past these feelings.