Hi she is not feeling "it" anymore

[Mrrch]

We had a chat moments ago.
I asked if she had seated any one and if she thought it was okay to do in a relationship. She said no and no.
She said I was being an [censored] for locking our toy box and she foundation list of expenses I had written down that she spent on her last trip to Mexico last month.
She said again how she can't do this anymore, brought up how I wasn't there for her when her mother died, how controlling of finances I had been in the past, how I always had to get my way,how we were roommates,etc.
I said I am willing to work on this and I have not given up.
Reiterated I am not leaving the house or kids.
I said if you are wanting change it is in her hands.
I may have forced the issue a little but I asked if she had started planning how to leave.
Just got an angry response of "I gave up my job, how do I afford to do it?"
Some talk of how to split up assets that she got angry about.
Just angry about the reality of it all I think.
I said marriage is hard and we should fight for it due to having kids.
She said she tried, and tried again.
Apparently I should have gotten over her affair quickly.
I'm in a holding pattern for now.