You mentioned that W gained about 40 lbs...which was shocking to you. Not to me. Why? That is a sign of comfort eating after being depressed/in depression. MLC is very closely tied with depression.
Let's take a look at the friend zone comment for perspective.
In the beginning, your W was very angry and hateful to you with spews. It was a very dark place for everyone.
Now you two are communicating more civilly which is an improvement from being the enemy. One just doesn't shift from being the angry monster to right to ML in the bedroom. There has to be a process in between which, to you, seems to be extremely slow.
Hey, we all talk about baby steps here...right? Look for the positives and keep doing WHAT actually works. I think you've hit the magic formula of being polite, respectful, cordial while ignoring her spews/nasty texts.
I liked how you've added "thank you" , "appreciate it" in your texts. That is an improvement from your past terse responses.
I've been telling you all along that YOU do have influence on those interactions. Keep it up!
