That detachment is tough, its tough on its own then you hit a point where you play the push/pull game and its harder to stay detached, we all struggle with it so do not beat yourself up about it.
You will probably come to a point where you have to go dim, not out of anger, but because you are so darned busy having a life, enjoying yourself ... Kudos on the baseball game thats a good one, meet new people, put yourself out there and just enjoy it .. I have no doubt you will truly feel better .. those add up and start building inside and after a bit everyone will take notice of the new glow.
As far as the TM, I made the mistake of being 'to available' be careful of that ... your W is probably at a place where things are cool provided she can do her thing and you stay just where she left you ... its common, when they notice you are not there, out living your own life, it starts to get things moving ... just something for you to have in your tool box.
