She hasn't said the word divorce only that our marriage is over. She said from day 1 she did not believe in divorce. Me 44 She 33 Together 14 years Married 8 this June Daughter 7 Son 5 She says our split should be amicable. Our daughter has a friend whose parents split and seem to get along so she says we should be like that as well.
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I have read a lot of links. Books will follow. Some of my 180's Getting a life Stopped devoting a lot of my time to her(I was smothering her) Obsessing about the past. Acknowledging that it is not all my fault Checking up on her on Facebook.
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I have not turned my back on her. She moved downstairs and is isolating herself. I told her I am here for you anytime you need me and that I still love her. Yesterday she wanted to talk and she said she feels trapped and that I have claimed our house. I said no one is trying to trap you. She said I looked angry, I said it's a blank look not anger (and I am over the anger) I said I understand how you feel. I think she was hoping I would say "okay I'll move out and make this easier for you" She is wanting a change not I. Hopefully this does not come across as harsh
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She has lost a lot of weight and is confident. But the reaching out thru sexting,etc is maybe looking for that ego boost. I would frequently even daily tell her she is beautiful and sexy and how proud I was of her taking the big step and following thru with her gastric bypass.
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Just reading what you have so far ... might be a good thing to get her to be aware of what her actions will result in. Not that it matters but looking at the age gap, maybe she is feeling she needs to 'live a little / experience new things' as she has been with you since she was 19 ... I could see this come into play a bit .. however with all things there are consequences for her actions.
Who pays for the cell phone>? I would yank this yesterday if I knew my money was going towards promoting her having EA's with other men, sexting and whatnot.
Reading this I just can not help but to think a more hardline approach like Starsky's methods would be more beneficial here.
She works from home and pays for her phone. i understand the living alittle due the fact she had a sick mother to help with and worry about, i encouraged her to but an affair is going too far.
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