Hey Matt... I only have a sec. Stbxw... Projection at it's finest.
Seriously.
This is where you step back, my friend. You see nothing you say or do will get through to her. She will not see it the way you do. Just emotionally check out.
Expect nothing good to come from her. Sounds harsh, but expectations can really keep ya back. So check out of her sitch, bud. Chalk it up as crazy-talk and carry on.
Focus on progressing w/o her. W you and your girls. You can do this, Matt. You have a lot if strength and a good heart. You are a great dad. Don't get swallowed up in the nonsense. Keep taking those steps for u and ur girls. You will push through.