Monday she had an "HR" emergency, and could I take the kids after GirlScouts to dinner until she gets finished? I said 'I would be happy to take the kids to dinner and drop them off at your place. I will text you when we are leaving. Would that work for you? I did not ask her what the HR emergency was as I would have done previously. It was none of my business.
Afterwards, I brought the kids back, unloaded their gear, took it to the front of the apartment door and met her there. We spoke for a little and I reviewed with her the problem our D6 had with GirlScouts and we had a united front on expected behaviors. That felt good and positive.
I am also replying to her emails with a "thank you" or "I appreciate it". It's always an email about the kids dong this or that or picking up something for the kids. if she has anything negative in the email or has a dig at me, I just don't respond. I have learned not to get baited into an argument.
So with this weight gain, what on earth? Is this a reaction to stress? Previously we went to Weight Watchers together weekly to work on keeping our weight under control. I have never seen her so heavy before and it's a little surprising to see. I guess it's mind reading and not helpful but I think she may be finding this separation thing hard (as I do) and this is how it is manifesting itself. For me, it was the opposite, I dropped 20 -30 lbs very quickly. I have regained some of it but still need to get me weight back up.
