Still, she is obviously still moving forward with D too. I simply need to remain calm and confident, taking advantage of my newfound free time, while being ready to seize opportunities to make small connections with STBX.
Remembering that sometimes, remaining strong, calm and confident requires you to be unavailable. Sometimes picking up the phone is the worse thing you can do. Watch out for the roller coaster. Stay away from high highs and low lows.
Mahhhty, Thanks for checking in. I'm glad your weekend away was a success.
You are 100% right about being available to STBX. I am trying to do a better job not replying to insignificant texts and letting some of her calls go to voicemail.
Journaling:
STBX sent a few texts/pics this AM of kids. I briefly respond. She also sent a text making a recommendation for a location where I could hold my next philosophy discussion group. I never got around to responding to that one.
Then, an hour or so later, STBX texted to ask if I would watch kids next week so she could go to a follow up doctors appointment. I reply that I would. I ask her if she's ok. She says its just to run some precautionary blood tests.
I text: "Oh no! I'm sorry you are dealing with this. You can always call if you want to talk about it."
STBX replies: "Thanks so much. I noticed it on my lab work the day of my surgery. I've been really tired so I wanted to get an update." --- How'd I do? Any feedback? I know the correspondence is brief but it's all I have to analyze at this time.
On a GAL front, really enjoyed the third meeting last night of the discussion group I started. It feels really good to get back to doing something I feel passionate about. Also, I'm pretty stoked that a friend loaned me a corn hole set for my camping trip this weekend.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
