Tulo, sorry to hear the talk did not go well. I think for the majority of us, that was the same result we all experienced from the talk in the early days of BD.

The best thing you can do now is detach from him which will be hard. I am finding this to be the hardest thing I have ever done. You will not be able to love him back, I have tried that and it just pushes them further away.

I am working in a place with a 11+ hour difference to central time and I am able to schedule a call with a DB coach. It has helped me tremendously for someone to 'talk me' through my situation and give me a different perspective.

Big hugs from a fellow hugger ((((Tulo)))). Take care of yourself.

Last edited by Smothy; 05/13/15 03:04 PM.
Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18
EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13
Move to work abroad Sept 14
re establish contact with OW while away
D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15